Jessica Dell
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February 26, 2020
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Mental Therapy

Stop Trying to Control the Process!

In the majority of my sessions with clients, the topic of control inevitably comes up. Whether it’s about letting go of control in specific areas of daily life or with a significant other, control makes us feel a false sense of security. We think if we can somehow control someone else or a specific situation, then we can also control the outcome. This type of thinking is flawed. We can ONLY control ourselves and how we react to people, places, and things.

Stop trying to control everything.

Life is a series of experiences. We get to choose how we view these experiences and how we behave. We do NOT get to choose how others view shared experiences and how they behave. So, if you are in a relationship, and you are aware that you are trying to control anything but yourself, it is time to take a look at this and ask yourself if you’d like to make a change. Knowledge is power...step into your power.

Food for thought...

Are you actually controlling outcomes or is the fear of the outcome controlling you?

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