Jessica Dell
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March 1, 2020
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Mental Therapy

Move bitch! Get out the way!

What are you doing to get in your own way?


I’ve been focusing on the topic of avoidance a lot lately. It is a common theme that weaves in and out of most of my client’s lives. Avoidance of feelings, avoidance of thoughts, avoidance of triggers, avoidance of taking action (especially when something seems or feels uncomfortable). While some level of avoidance can actually be healthy and in fact a necessity for survival, on other levels it can be debilitating and cause more damage.


One of the greatest problems with avoidance is that it often causes severe anxiety which wreaks havoc on the body and can lead to unhealthy self medicating behaviors such as alcohol and drug abuse, compulsive shopping, eating disorders, and self-harm. If I know I need to do something and I continue not to do it knowing that it’s important, it will continue to create anxiety (head/heart conflict) until the task is complete. So, why do we put it off? Why do we not take action even when we know it would resolve our anxiety? The answer is simple. We allow the negative voice in our head to override the positive. We stay comfortable in our cocoon of self doubt and self pity.


I love when a client contacts me for a last minute “kick in the ass.” Her mind was cluttered with negativity and she was feeling stuck. We dove right in. It took 10 minutes to “reset” and within 25 minutes she was ready to take action and do what she needed to do.


It really is that simple. A phone call and 25 minutes to get out of that cocoon of self doubt and self pity. If you are feeling cluttered and stuck, avoiding what you know you need to do, give me a call for a “kick in the ass” and get out the way!


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